We are so fortunate to have John here visiting these 4 days. We were gone most of the day, and Erin planned for John to drive her to Davis to have lunch and spend the afternoon at her house with the boys and Steve. Miselka held the handles of the wheelchair and Steve and John used the wheels to lift Erin up the 3 stairs into the house.
Erin said Tommy kept coming and nestling his head in her lap. John said Tommy was making pretend pasta and getting water all over the house. Paco kept John busy playing Pokemon.
This morning Clark and I stopped at the hospital to see his son Jim who had been moved to the neuro-observation unit before we left last night. Jim said “hi” to Clark as we walked in, and then peeked around Clark and waved at me. I thought he seemed much more aware than yesterday, though he was sleeping most of the time. The neurologist came while we were there and she asked him to hold up 2 fingers, which he did. She asked him his name, and though he couldn’t tell her, I thought that it looked as if he understood her question, not having the blank look that was really bothering Clark last night. She asked him if his name were Dave and he nodded “no”, and when she asked if he was James, he nodded “yes”. He couldn’t tell her how old he was, and then she turned to us and said that he was a little worse than yesterday. That surprised me, both that she thought that and that she said that in front of him.
Jim went back to sleep, so we headed to Lodi for the memorial Mass and Celebration of Life for my friend Joanne’s daughter Mary who died in Dec., 2 days short of her 48th birthday. Mary died of cancer of the bile duct, a rare cancer, but it is what my mother-in-law died of at age almost 101. There had been a Mass in SF in Dec., but this was for the locals. When mass was over, the priest walked Joanne out. I had never seen that done before, and he said it was just a spontaneous thing he did. Joanne’s husband had died in Sept.
The celebration was at the Bare Ranch on acres of grapes owned by the Phillips family of Michael David Winery. Dave Phillips had been a classmate of Mary’s. We only stayed briefly because Clark phoned his 2nd son Scott who said that there was news, and he would call him back. When a half hour had passed, Clark suspected the worse, so we headed back to Sacramento. We arrived just as the whole family was heading to Cafe Bernardo. We saw Jim and then joined Scott and wife Sue from San Rafael, #3 son Dan and wife Anne from Elk Grove, and Jim’s wife Deb and their children Noah and Elana who had flown home for the weekend from Reid and Occidental Colleges, and Jim’s cousin Matt from SF.
The cardiologist had done an endoscopic exam of the heart lining and determined that there was some vegetation harboring bacteria and had found the anti-biotic to which it was sensitive. It will take about 6 weeks on this anti-biotic, but there wasn’t enough vegetaion to justify replacement of the mitral valve. There is danger of another stroke if more vegetation breaks off, and there is of course a long road of speech rehab ahead.
When we got home, Clark went to the bridge club where there was a memorial for a 90 year old woman with whom he used to play bridge.
Tonight #4 son Craig flew in from Las Vegas, and Clark is out meeting him, seeing Jim, and having dinner with Craig. He said he would probably pick at food for the 5th time today. He just arrived home and said that Jim’s temperature is back up.
John and Erin brought back a DVD player and some movies from her house in Davis, and John got the DVD player working and they have Pride and Prejudice going in the background in her room as they chat with Clark.