I asked family to list 3-5 reasons why we all love Tom. I was hoping to get a list of 50 reasons. The list is over 80!
1. He can make order out of chaos.
2. He married a great cook!
Tom Zavadil and Dean Lindsey toast at their reception, Feb. 15, 2015
3. His smile.4. His artistic ability.
5. His gentle nature.6. He is interested in family history.
7. He wants to know everyone’s birthday.
8. His creative Christmas cards. Here is his 2018 card. It was a retrospective of his 25 cards. See #44
9. He had the good sense to overstay his time with his mother while his house was being remodeled.
10. His and Dean’s staying longer than expected pleased his mother tremendously. This was the subject for Tom’s 2017 Christmas card:11. He and Dean came to the hotel in Denver for breakfast with Clark, Barb, and Erin the morning of their wedding reception:
12. His perfectly organized house.13. No matter what he does, he makes the effort to do it well.14. His process is part of the product.
15. He’s tall dark and handsome.Tom is:
16. Very creative and smart
17. Very devoted and family oriented. Here are all of his sibs and their families:
18. Very warm, open, and approachable
19. Very kind and loving
20. Very adventurous
21. Beate loved his gentle nature.
22. He is very friendly and happy.
23. He had a great wedding reception with Dean.
The reception tent from the outside:
And the tent from the inside:
24. He was always very close with Erin at our family gatherings:
25. I enjoy him for his creativity, intelligence, and pleasant personality.
26. Nifty nifty look who’s fifty! Yay Tom!
27. Lovely smile and twinkle in his eyes:
28. Gracious Denver tour guide!
30. “Wears” 50 well showing 50 is the new 40 (or something like that)!
34. Creative (for example, the steam pipes in the basement of Patricia’s house)
38. Tom gives informative, architectural tours of Denver.
39. He made my childhood a blast.
40. Every Christmas morning Tom hides things for Jonathan. He originally did it to keep Jonathan distracted until the presents were opened. Being the youngest here in Denver it was always the hardest for Jonathan. Tom keeps doing it because it is something Jonathan looks forward to every year.
Here is Jonathan with his grandmother, Patricia:
41. He has an amazing memory.
42. He has a wonderful sense of humor.
43. He sent me the most amazing letters and care packages when I was in college. It made my freshman year survivable.
44. His creativity and wit with the Christmas Card and how he wraps gifts
To enter the gallery go to #64.
45. I know I made him crazy when we were kids, but he never wanted to change me. Or maybe he did, but he never made me feel that way.
Tom with His Siblings – 1975
Back row: John, Joe, Peter; Front row: Mary, Betsy, and Tom at age 6. Tom are you thinking about how to change Betsy?
And here are Tom’s parents in 1975:
46. He truly tries to foster his relationships with his nieces and nephews. He listens to them.
47. Tom remembers family birthdays and anniversaries almost as well as Barbara does.
48. Tom is a kind and thoughtful visitor. He’ll go out of his way to find you when he’s in your neighborhood.
49. When Tom gets to your house, he won’t have any dietary restrictions or New Year’s resolutions that prevent you from having wine and cheese (and excellent conversation).
50. Dean is now my outlaw cousin. (Clark wants to know what his relationship is to Dean.) Dean is also good at wine and cheese and conversation. (Happy Not-a-Multiple-of-10 Birthday, Dean!)
51. Tom goes to the annual Gutierrez Dance Party and doesn’t dance, so you always have someone excellent to talk to when you want to sit a song out.
52. Tom (and Dean) send Christmas cards that make you happy as soon as you see the envelope.
53. Tom was a devoted grandson to his Dad’s Mom, Lee Zavadil.
54. Tom and Dean made a trip to Davis from Denver to organize Erin’s closets and garage.
55. On their way to Mary’s graduation from Santa Clara in 1982, Tom was selected to be the speech maker as he presented the gift the Zavadil’s gave me. I think of Tom every day when I use those colored tumblers. 3 of the 8 still exist after 36 years:
57. Tom was again a speech maker at the celebration of Erin’s life. He persevered in spite of the bad microphone:
I love Tom because
58. He is kind and thoughtful to the older people in his life (like his mother):
59. He has a clever, witty, charming sense of humor that makes me laugh
60. He is so organized
61. His printing is a work of art even on a casual note
62. He creates personal, hand-crafted gifts
63. He concerns himself about how to live a moral life
64. His Christmas cards are so original. This is the gallery of his Christmas cards:
65. His Big Brown Eyes
66. He is reaaaallly good lookin’
67. He is very earnest and mindful about living a good life
68. His excellent taste in men
69. His amazing creativity and how generous he is with sharing it!
70. He is s great traveling companion!
71. His aptitude for French
72. World’s best babysitter!
73. Incredible, witty, yet kind sense of humor
74. A very clever writer
75. He is a great friend and husband and uncle and brother
I could go on and on….
Things we love about Tom:
76. His kindness, especially to cousins from California (My niece Kathy Brown and her daughter Rebecca visited Tom and Dean in Denver.)
77. His attention to detail
78. His wonderful lessons on how to paint stripes on walls with the utmost precision.
Rebecca is admiring the green stripes in Tom and Dean’s dining room.
These blue stripes are in Rebecca‘s bedroom Oakland. Tom helped Rebecca pick the blue paints when Kathy and Rebecca were back in Denver, and then he talked them through how to do the job.
Rebecca relaxing in the blue striped bedroom. Clark says if he had a comfortable room like this, he would never leave home.
79. Tom’s keen memory and the fact that he has multi generations of family members birthdays and anniversaries memorized
80. His humbleness
Happy 50th, Tom. Now we have a list ready for when you turn 81.